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Toxic Partners: For the past decade, there has been a lot of media attention to narcissism in relationships, and lately about borderline...

Book Review: Courage to be Disliked – Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga It would be natural to interpret the title of this book as an...

Peng's Parables and Maple's Morals-- entertaining animal anime with life lessons and deliciously, wickedly funny philosophy. Follow the...

Scarcity Mentality:  One more horseman In a prior post, I explained how the Gottman Institute model of the four horsemen of the...

The Gottman Institute model of Four Horsemen of the (relationship) Apocalypse posits four behavioral signs of doomed relationships, and...

The Third Act The years from our mid-fifties to early sixties mark a transformative stage in life—a time often called the third act,  ...

Feeling Better There is nothing wrong with feeling better, and there are many techniques to help diminish the painful symptoms of...

If you are brand new to mindfulness, you may want to check out my Mini Mindfulness blog post/pod cast. This is not intended to be a...

OUCH!” A shortcut to de-escalating conflict “Suddenly we’re yelling!” Many patients tell me that they are surprised to find themselves...

Why is Psychotherapy so #&@%% Expensive Reduced stigma, acceptance of mental health as part of whole-person health, and increased...

Introduction Happiness is a universal pursuit, and one of the most profound sources of joy and contentment in our lives is our romantic...

How to start liking someone you dislike Sometimes we have good reasons for disliking people or groups of people, such as when they...

((SCROLL DOWN TO BOTTOM OF BLOGS PAGE FOR UPDATES)) Probably, at first, this seems like a weird way to share my journey, as opposed to...

Doing the work: Overcoming our own racism and racial biases Our biases hurt us, people and groups about whom we hold biases, hurt...

Click here to Play the 5/4/3/2/1 meditation instructions Pick your agitation number Follow the prompts Reduce your agitation level Teach...

Fire me (Or partner with me) Build Your Own Mental Wellbeing Author's note: This is not intended as psychological consultation or a...

Sexual Trauma Most women I have counseled, and many of the men have at some point reported experiencing sexual trauma which continues to...

From media portrayals of psychotherapy, many people get a lot of negative ideas about what therapy is like, including overrepresentation...

Thought distortions are beliefs we hold which are not supported by evidence – in fact, most are contradicted by evidence – and usually...

Why learn new skills? ​People usually work on their skills when their current behaviors stop being successful in a context they are used...